17/08/2024
If only.
If only family were everything, as in the group of people who aid those among them who are hurt.
If only family were everything, as in the place that shelters their own when they have been wounded.
If only family were everything, when one among them asks for help.
If only.
Anyone can choose family to be there everything. That is their choice. But their is constant shame, misunderstanding, judgment even for those who have a different experience.
Because those experiences shine light on others who have no idea what trauma is, or those who refuse to acknowledge their family is just as dysfinctional as the next, but everyone is an assigned role to make it work.
So, when someone raises their hand, and they are hurt by someone in their family and needing help, and the family whispers “Shhhh, keep this quiet” the hurt person buries that pain a little deeper.
They adapt and then the family member hurts them again. This time the family tells the hurt person they are overreacting, because the first “Shhhh” didn’t work and hopefully this will cement their reality from being known.
Over and over the hurt, the hungry, the ones not adapting well are blamed for needing something different.
Families who do not honor, protect, adapt to those needing care in the most traumatic times, are not families. And they sure as hell are not everything.
Less “Family is everything” and more “Healing is.” �
Anyone can join you in that healing and they can choose not to. That has nothing to do with whether or not you deserve peace.
I’m so glad you’re here!
****My online group opens registration on October 2nd! Make sure you have a spot on the waitlist @ linktr.ee/natepost
****Once a year I run a four week course on inner child work. If you would like to join, you can do that @ link as well.
